Musar para sa Mga Kawikaan 17:1

And according to common sense, it is proper for man to love his body more than his money, and better dry bread with peace and rest than riches with heavy burdens and troubles ([paraphrasing] Proverbs 17:1). And if Hashem expands his border, he should find an outlet for his money to find rest for his body, and not toil in this world for the sake of monetary gain unless it is good for his body. And he will be a kindly man [who through this] benefits his soul (Proverbs 11:17), provided that he is not among the heavy drinkers of wine, gluttons of meat, eaters of royal dainties, excessively wasting days and nights, [or] excessively engaging in marital relations like roosters, for all these will consume both soul and body (Isaiah 10:18), as will be further explained in it’s [proper] place. And above all it is necessary to protect oneself from anger, as is written (Ecclesiastes 11:10): “banish anger from your heart, and do away with evil from your flesh.”

And if Hashem broadens her husband’s means, and yet he remains stingy with household needs or delays in bringing them, what concern is it of hers? She puts what he brings in front of him and he eats it. Will he be able to say to her “why haven’t you made the delicacies I enjoy”? She will say to him “how can I make that which you have not brought?” And if she makes a quarrel over clothing, jewelry, and worldly pleasures, this too is vain and vexation of spirit, for “better is dry bread and quietness with it” (Proverbs 17:1). And if the great name [of Hashem] written in holiness can be erased for peace in the home (Nedarim 66b), how much more so does the husband and wife need to dissolve and nullify their wills for the sake of peace in the home. And the wife should sense that her husband isn’t as well-off as she thinks and doesn’t wish to tell her that he doesn’t have the means, since he thinks this is bad luck for her, and similar sufficient reasons he may have for not fulfilling her will. Therefore she should not press at the time nor force him against his judgment to increase his spending against his will and not to his benefit. And likewise she needs to sense when her husband is angry at her over nothing, for perhaps he suffered in the market and was greatly angered over something that happened, as the people say: “able or unable, he quarrels with his wife”. And she must tolerate it, and not enrage him or distress him further.