Musar zu Bereschit 31:4

וישלח יעקב ויקרא לרחל וללאה. We learn from here that when the head of the household wants something from its member, he should not go about this in an autocratic manner even though he has the right to impose his will. He should endeavor to win over the members of his household to the course of action he has decided upon. It is always better to have the willing support of one's family than to have them merely obey one's orders.