Midrash for Genesis 16:2

Who perceiveth that her merchandise is good (Prov. 31:18). That was when the kings attacked them, as it is written: And he divided himself against them by night (Gen. 14:15). She stretcheth out her hand to the poor (Prov. 31:19), by giving food to passers-by. Yea, she reacheth forth her hand to the needy (ibid., v. 20); for she gave charity and clothed the naked. She is not afraid of the snow for her household (ibid., v. 21); that is, she did not fear Gehenna. And why not? Because her entire household possessed garments (shanim, punning on shnayim, “two”) (ibid.): Sabbath and circumcision. She maketh for herself coverlets (ibid., v. 22): These were the priestly garments. From the fruit of her hand she planted a vineyard (ibid., v. 16). This refers to Israel, as it is said: For a vineyard of the Lord of hosts is the house of Israel (Isa. 5:7). Her husband is known in the gates (Prov. 31:23); that is, when he pleaded with the sons of Seth: Give me a possession of a burial place (Gen. 23:4). She maketh linen garments (Prov. 31:24) refers to the circumcision that took place, as it is said: The counsel of the Lord is with them that fear Him (Ps. 25:14). Strength and dignity are her clothing (Prov. 31:25) alludes to the clouds of glory that encircled her tent. She openeth her mouth with wisdom (ibid. 39:26). When was that? When she said to Abraham: Go, I pray thee, unto thy handmaid (Gen. 16:2). She looketh well to the ways of her household (Prov. 31:27) indicates that she watched every day for the return of the angel who had informed her: I will certainly return unto thee (Gen. 18:10).

Observe that anyone who causes his neighbor to grieve is the first to be punished. Conversely Sarah was rewarded because she brought grief to herself when she said to Abraham: Behold now, the Lord hath restrained me from bearing; go in, I pray thee, unto my handmaid (Gen. 16:2). The Holy One, blessed be He, told her: Inasmuch as you inflicted distress upon yourself, you may be assured that with the very words you spoke, I will remember you. You said: The Lord hath restrained me; therefore it is written: The Lord hath restrained the wombs of the house of Abimelech (Gen. 20:18). The Holy One, blessed be He, declared: Abraham pleaded with Me in behalf of the wicked Abimelech, until I became merciful toward him; therefore, I shall remember Abraham together with him, as it is said: And God healed Abimelech, and his wife, and his handmaids (ibid., v. 17). What is written next? And the Lord remembered Sarah.

(Gen. 21:1:) THEN THE LORD VISITED SARAH. Let our master instruct us: What is meant by abuse?¹²⁴Tanh., Gen. 4:14; PR 42:1 ; cf. BM 58b (bar.) Thus have our masters taught: It is forbidden for someone to abuse his neighbor. (According to BM 4:10:) LET HIM NOT SAY: HOW MUCH DOES THIS COST? IF HE DOES NOT INTEND TO BUY. IF SOMEONE HAS REPENTED, ONE SHOULD NOT ABUSE HIM AND SAY TO HIM: REMEMBER YOUR FORMER DEEDS. IF SOMEONE IS A DESCENDANT OF PROSELYTES, ONE SHOULD NOT SAY TO HIM: REMEMBER THE CONDUCT OF YOUR ANCESTORS; just look at < the meat of the > pig stuck between their teeth. The Holy One said to them: It is enough for you to be like me. When I, as it were, created my world, I did not desire to abuse creation. So I did not publicize to those coming into the world from what tree the first Adam had eaten.¹²⁵Thus God even avoided abusing a tree. Come and see: Whoever abused his companion was punished from the start. But Sarah abused herself; so she received her reward. She said to Abraham (in Gen. 16:2): PLEASE LOOK AT HOW THE LORD HAS RESTRAINED ME FROM BEARING! The Holy One said to her: You have abused yourself. By your life, I am visiting you through the very language that you have spoken. You said: RESTRAINED. What is written elsewhere (in Gen. 20:18)? FOR THE LORD HAD COMPLETELY RESTRAINED EVERY WOMB < IN THE HOUSE OF ABIMELECH, DUE TO THE WORD OF ABRAHAM'S WIFE, SARAH >. The Holy One said: When Abraham prayed to me about the wicked Abimelech, I was filled with compassion for him. Behold, I am visiting Abraham along with him. Where it is stated (in Gen. 20:17): AND GOD HEALED ABIMELECH, HIS WIFE, AND HIS FEMALE SERVANTS SO THAT THEY BORE. What is written after that (in Gen. 21:1)? THEN THE LORD VISITED SARAH.

2. "And Sarai said to Abram, 'Look, the Lord has kept me from bearing' (Gen.16:2) as follows: "Said she, I know the source of my affliction: It is not as people say [of a barren woman], 'she needs a talisman, she needs a charm', but Look, the Lord has kept me from bearing.'" It is taught: whoever has no child is like one who is dead, like one who is destroyed. Like dead, since it is written "And Rachel said to Yaakov: give me children [or I shall die]" (Genesis 30:1). Destroyed, as it is written "maybe I will be build from her" (Genesis 16:2) - we build only what was destroyed.