וַיֹּאמֶר֩ דָּוִ֨ד אֶל־יוֹאָ֜ב וְאֶל־כָּל־הָעָ֣ם אֲשֶׁר־אִתּ֗וֹ קִרְע֤וּ בִגְדֵיכֶם֙ וְחִגְר֣וּ שַׂקִּ֔ים וְסִפְד֖וּ לִפְנֵ֣י אַבְנֵ֑ר וְהַמֶּ֣לֶךְ דָּוִ֔ד הֹלֵ֖ךְ אַחֲרֵ֥י הַמִּטָּֽה׃
Entonces dijo David á Joab, y á todo el pueblo que con él estaba: Romped vuestros vestidos, y ceñíos de sacos, y haced duelo delante de Abner. Y el rey iba detrás del féretro.
Jerusalem Talmud Sanhedrin
Some Tannaïm state125Gen. rabba 17(13).: Women go first126In a funeral procession, they precede the bier., after them men. But some Tannaïm state: Men first, women after them. He who says women first, since they caused death to the world. He who says men first, for the honor of the daughter of Israel, lest people127The onlookers. look at women. But was it not written: King David followed the bier121,2S.3:31.128In v. 32 it says that David cried at Abner’s grave, and so did the entire people; entire includes women. But it still is undecided who went first. In the Babli, 20a, the verse is quoted as proof that the women must have preceded the bier since the king immediately followed it.. They said, this was only to quiet. Whoever was calming the women was calming the men, and whoever was calming the men was calming the women.