יְהִֽי־שָׁל֥וֹם בְּחֵילֵ֑ךְ שַׁ֝לְוָ֗ה בְּאַרְמְנוֹתָֽיִךְ׃
네 성 안에는 평강이 있고 네 궁중에는 형통이 있을지어다
Pele Yoetz
And this is a great principle: if there is contention between people or between husband and wife, and one was the one who “opened the waters” initiating the argument [i.e. opened the floodgates for further contention] (Proverbs 17:14), and went out of line and opened his mouth without restraint, even if he can overpower his opponent, he should not say a word at the time of his anger, whether good or bad. Rather, wait until the time passes, and after a day or two admonish him in-person peacefully and fairly and with calm language, and say to him: why have you done this? What is my crime or sin that you have pursued me with more and more anger though I have no violence in my hands? Is this good in the eyes of G-d? And similar good words. One who does this loves peace and pursues peace [see Pirkei Avot 1:12] , and “there was peace in his army and tranquility in his palaces” [see Psalms 122:7]. They are the pillars of the world. As our Rabbis of blessed memory say (Chullin 89a) on the verse (Job 26:7) “he hangs the world on nothing [blima]”, that the world stands on he who restrains [bolem] his mouth during an argument, for by this the argument will be barren, not giving birth [to further conflict].