תּלמוד אויף משלי 17:14

Rebbi Zachariah asked before Rebbi Immi: Does one act following that Tanna, as it was stated: ⁸⁶Tosephta 1:6, Babli 6b.“Rebbi Simeon ben Menassiah says, sometimes you are empowered to propose a compromise, sometimes you are not empowered to propose a compromise. How is this? Two come before a judge; before he heard their arguments, or after he heard their arguments but does not know how to correctly apply the law, he may tell them, go and work out a compromise. After you heard their arguments and know how to correctly apply the law, you may not propose a compromise, as it is said⁸⁷Prov. 17:14.: One may remove the beginning of a quarrel like water; before it becomes manifest, the quarrel may be abandoned. Before the quarrel became manifest, you are permitted to abandon it; after the quarrel became manifest, you are not permitted to abandon it.” Rebbi Mattaniah said, even compromise needs intelligent decision⁸⁸He objects to the statement that the judge should send the parties away to work out a compromise on their own; he requires the judge to guide them towards a reasonable compromise..

R'Shmion Ben Minasey says: -Two people who come in front of you for court, until you hear their case, or from the time you heard their claims, and you don't know what the verdict should be, you can still advise them to make a compromise. From the time you heard their claims, and you know what the verdict should be, you are not allowed to tell them to compromise. As it says in the Torah - "......." (He now elaborates on this Posuk) Before the case has been unraveled, you may steer them toward peace. But from the time when the case has been unraveled, you can't steer them toward peace

A certain man used to say: “It is good for a person to hear and be silent. One hundred evils pass him by.” Samuel said to Rav Yehuda: This is a written verse. “To start a quarrel is to open a sluice; [Before a dispute flares up, drop it.]” (Proverbs 17:14). The beginning of a hundred lawsuits.